The Polarization Of America: Pro-Life/Pro-Choice

Abortion/Termination, I don’t care what you call it but there is a reason why someone would call it one thing and not another.
It’s perspective.
For some it’s a matter of their Religious views or right/wrong.
For some it’s a matter of the right to choose what happens to their body. They can be Religious or not.

When I was a teenager my Dad had a talk with me…
…”You have to pick.”
And I did; Pro-Choice (not because of Religious conviction). That was 24 years ago though and several years ago I came to the conclusion that NOTHING is Black or White.

I’ve known several women that have terminated(?) the life(?) that grew in them. They all did it with the heavy weight that only a Woman can understand. They did it for their own reasons.
I said…"that only a Woman can understand”, because a Man will never have to be burdened with this choice(?).
Anytime you have sex you need to acknowledge that there could be consequences for your actions and you better hope that your nuva ring is ‘installed' properly and that he wore a condom.
A Woman can get pregnant even if she uses birth control, accidents do happen…can you call the creation of life an accident?
The Woman IS burdened with the responsibility.
If a Man and a Woman have a one night stand (I’m not saying it’s right, just that it does happen) and she gets pregnant…
The Woman IS burdened with the responsibility.

My 3 Children were adopted.
Their Biological Mothers were burdened with the heavy weight of carrying these Children to term and I am SO THANKFUL they did…
However, even though I am the Mother of 3 adopted Children…
I’m a realist; rape, health issues and such are also reasons but…
...I say this knowing that the majority of the Women that make this hard decision do it as a form of birth control, most often only once. I also believe it’s not a flippant choice they make.
I truly believe it is not my right to stand in judgement of someone else’s choice.

The Religious Right would most likely say these Women are going to hell(?) if they don’t or haven’t invited(?) accepted(?) Jesus into their lives and asked for forgiveness…
My thought is that they are already living in that hell.

The over all debate is…
…”When do we call it(?) life?
The 'morning after pill’…potential life is being executed(?).

For most Women the morning after pill is a God send, pun intended.

To go a little bit deeper…
As far as the Catholic church is concerned a man cannot even “jizz off” masturbate I hope privately because the potential for life exists in sperm.
Show me a Man, Catholic or not and I’ll show someone that masturbates.

Matt. 7:1 “How can you say to your brother, 'let me take that speck out of your eye’, when all the time there is a plank in your own eye.”

I know I do not want to travel back in time to the days of back alley abortions(?) terminations(?)...

I’m Pro-Life for myself.
I’m Pro-Choice for someone else.
It is the dilemma that We that are middle of the road…not liberal, not conservative, live with…it’s not that we can’t make a choice/decision…We most certainly can! We also know that we are not in the right to make a decision for someone else.

To talk about this subject I also HAVE to bring up the death penalty.
 ... I extend my Pro-Life stand with concerns to the death penalty as well.
You cannot truly be Pro-Life and also believe in the Death Penalty.
But often conservatives are Pro-Life and Pro-Death Penalty.
Liberals are often Pro-Choice and Anti-Death Penalty.

I would love to say that I am Against the Death Penalty because I am Pro-Life…
It is not for that reason that I oppose it though…as my heart sinks...
I’m a realist...
I oppose it because sometimes someone is wrongly accused but more importantly, it’s more expensive to put someone on Death Row than it is to keep them in prison for Life.
I don’t wanna pay for that!

It saddens me that there is a portion of society that believes things are black and white…their way or the highway…I’m on that highway…driving in the middle of the road trying not to get hit!…I believe I am an average American with realistic middle of the road views…we lack a voice and the propaganda skills that the left and the right use to gather followers(?).

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A Letter For The Piss And Drop Line

Dear Parent of young child/children,

        

         Your lack of knowledge as to how the ‘Kiss and Drop’ line works has many of us other parents now calling it the ‘Piss and Drop’ line because we get so pissed off at your above mentioned lack of knowledge.

         If you are coming from the South please proceed into the ‘parking lot area’ line. DO NOT hold up traffic by waiting for someone coming from the North to let you into the ‘curb side’ line. There are a great deal of other parents waiting to drop their own child/children off that come from the North.

There is a responsible adult/teacher helping them get across said ‘traffic’(?).

If you do not trust that your child/children cannot get across safely please either figure out how to come from the North or transfer your child/children to a different school because the person that gets your child/children across said ‘traffic’(?) is responsible for your child/children’s safety during school hours…just sayin’.

         If you are coming from the North please obey the laws of the 4 way stop sign intersection. LOOK around and see if you arrived AFTER someone else. That someone else has been waiting for THEIR TURN. Don’t just go because you want to.

         Please also do NOT park your vehicle or get out of it. Do not wait for the teacher to come get your child/children. If you don’t think it’s safe enough, find a PARKING spot either on the road or in the parking lot and then get out to walk your child/children to the school grounds.

Thank you,

The parents of other children that you inconvenience daily.

Note, this letter is not sanctioned by SRES.

Faith Promise

OOOoooooooo Doggy I just got my panties in a wad! Not really I don’t have any on.

Several of my friends posted this on Facebook…
http://blog.faithpromise.org/2012/01/fathers-be-good-to-your-daughters/

Almost…a great read…but this is NOT AN EPISODE OF GLEE. This is the real world.

This is the part I have a problem with…
"Be the husband you want her to have one day.  Enough said.  “Enough said”…then STOP HERE! Is it difficult?  Yes.  Does it mean sacrifice?  Yes.  Is it worth it?  Yes. Obviously enough was not said  I watch my husband daily making changes to be a better husband and dad.  He’s amazing.  He demonstrates for our daughter the kind of man he wants her to marry one day."
 …I know this is a religious site but…
HELLLOOOOOOOOOOOOooooo!!!

Divorce is gonna happen almost 50% of the time and sadly Children will be involved.
Life is not all daffodils and rainbows.

First off there are TWO parents involved (usually). In this little site that has been shared, read and commented by many…(I didn’t read all the comments)…I did read that many Christians have a hard time receiving ‘Gays’ Yes I used the word ‘Gays’…again life is not an episode of Glee... (even their own Children) into their lives. I’m not goin’ there though, this time and pissed me off not for myself but those Mom and Dads that are happily divorced!

Divorce is NOT a bad word.
…The religious right is so wrong sometimes.

Note…Some of my closest Friends are BornAgain/Baptist/Christians and are what I would consider the epitome of the teachings of their Jesus. I know others that are not.

How about this scenario…One spouse is done, male or female, I don’t care which. Obviously (sometimes denied by one) something was wrong in the marriage. The spouse in denial comes to their acceptance(?) and “gets it”… The “get’s it” part is who is/are the most important person/s here…
This is what we can teach them…our Children that are more important than us.

We can teach them how two people that once loved one another can MAKE IT WORK even though their relationship has moved forward, done and changed.
“Is it difficult? Yes. Is it worth it? Yes.

I know great single Mom’s and great single Dad’s that are fantastic examples to their Children.
This is a shout out to YOU! Fuck all those judgmental types.

Be the Parent you want them to be!
And please stop watching Glee…as much as Politically Correct people fuel my fire of fun;) it’s getting Reeeeeeeeeediculous.

Some of you will read this and wonder why I found it offensive (?)…
…It’s a slap in the face to those Parents that made a very difficult decision.

Paula Deen

Paula Deen is making the morning show circuit sharing with the world she has Type 2 diabetes.
She is not taking blame for it.
She was diagnosed almost 3 years ago.

Paula’s lively hood is Southern Cooking.
…”You just can’t use enough butter ya'll.”
In her interviews she is saying…
…”I’ve always said moderation.”
In the last 3 years she has continued in her quest to teach people how to cook some of the, albeit delicious, fat laden, artery clogging and…
…potentially diabetes causing Southern dishes.
Diet is one of the causes of Type 2 diabetes.
As is stress…which she seems to be feeling a lot of…now…

So…it’s taken her 3 years to come out with her crushing news.

I have a theory on why she waited...

…And it has to do with her business sense.

She however didn’t see the backlash...of her mistake.

She says it took her 3 years “…to digest her situation(?)…”

I like her choice word “digest”…so fitting.

I believe it took three years to ‘bake up’ a business plan…

…Because the old one wasn’t gonna work anymore.

She…and her sons are being endorsed by a pharmaceutical company, Novo Nordisk.
$,$$$,$$$

Who doesn’t like getting money?

They are donating a…

…“...a certain percentage” to American Diabetes Association.
What is a certain percentage? 1%? 75%?
I’d like to know.

I saw Paula on The Chew yesterday and she was a bit emotional talking about her ‘situation’.
I’m not sure which situation she was upset about though.
That of her diagnosis which she has had 3 years to digest.
...or that of the backlash because she had continued her show even though SHE KNOWS THE FOOD SHE COOKS IS NOT HEALTHY!!! (Moderation my ass.)
She had the boys with her and whenever the questions got tough they changed the subject…
…nice play.

Her son Bobby, has a new show…’Not Your Mamas Meals’ on the Food Network.
Lighter, healthier versions of his Mothers recipes!
$$$,$$$

Jamie, also has a new show coming out in several months.
$$$,$$$

She has fooled the world for the last 3 years and NOT taken blame for her situation.
She can say, “Genes” all she want’s. If she was anything but a White Woman I would take that into consideration…
Paula Deen can’t take responsibility for her actions…and now she’s going to profit from it.

Road Rage

I have serious anger issues…I laugh as I type…’cause I really don’t.

That Kiss and Drop line Piss and Drop line though or the Stop and Go Kick and Go whatever you want to call it puts me over the edge almost every morning!

I must mouth…”YOUR STUPID!” a hundred times…Ok, maybe not really a hundred, I exaggerate.

One day I fear this will happen…
I will be minding my own business at some middle class run of the mill establishment like Target or Starbucks.

Note...There is a Starbucks in our Target so for my story line I’ll be in Target after a visit to Starbucks. …

I’ll have my steamy, skinny latte with whip in hand, dressed like I just came from or am going to some shindig that no one else was invited to including me and I will be perusing the isles for nothing in particular killin’ time before I head to lunch with my Friends and some stranger in sweat pants pushing a cart filled with picture frames that she will put photos of her Children in, hang them on the wall in her house she doesn’t clean often enough and is decorated with ducks, plaid and lazy easychairs...will approach me…
This is what will go down…

Her…”You have a serious problem.”

Note…she will recognize me. I won’t recognize her because the last time I saw her she had infuriated me with her stupid, retarded, mentally slow self  to the point that my eyes had glazed over with fury she had made me so angry...

Me…”I’m sorry is there toilet paper hanging from my pants?” As I smile and flash my intensely white teeth…
…I consider toilet paper hanging out of my pants a serious problem.
Her…”No…What is your problem at the school?!”
Me…”Ohhhhhh.” I gaze at her feeling bad ‘cause she doesn’t know…
…THAT SHE’S STUPID!
Me…”What kind of car, truck or van do you drive?”

I will then give a diatribe calmly describing my issues with retarded mentally slow people and that there was…
…no need to sit in her car and watch her Child get INTO the school building and hold up all the traffic.
…wait for some other retard mentally slow person to let her in the  OTHER lane as she holds up all the traffic, when she should be already dropping her Child off ‘cause HER lane is EMPTY.
There are a lot of issues I have and everyday someone does something even more retarded mentally slow which creates more issues with me.

Enough about the school…now I’m gonna bitch about other retards mentally slow people...

Indicators…
An indicator is that little dodad to the left of your steering wheel that you flip up for right and down for left.
…or if you have ever lived where ya drove on the left side you just turn your windshield wipers on…
As I was saying…
This morning I’m at a stop sign and a car is coming down the road, in the left lane. I see this and start to pull out…this jackass though doesn’t know where his indicators are I’m guessing(?) and that under normal circumstance if you are changing lanes or turning you INDICATE to those around you of your intentions…Because I had to come to a crashing screaming halt because YOU didn’t INDICATE you were gonna randomly change lanes for no other reason that I can gather but to give me fodder for this ridiculous bitchy blog!
You’re Mcfucktard.

I could go on and on about indicators…I have a problem when people don’t use them because to many people think they are special (?)…yeah they are, short bus special!

Note…Don’t get your panties in a wad just ‘cause I made a reference to ‘the short bus’.

Oh and one more thing…
…for now…
Speeding…
Speeding is fine. It’s not really putting you out, or me…If you are going faster than me I’ll INDICATE I’ll get out of the way and into the other lane to let you by. I’m NOT the Mcfucktard that will deliberately slow down in front of you.
I however will most likely be the one going the fastest…
‘Cause if you haven’t noticed yet I’m going nowhere…FAST!

Note…I don’t really have road rage…I’m usually laughing at peoples retarded-ness mentally slow actions so hard I’m crying.

The Piss And Drop Line

Anyone that has to drive their little People to school in the morning and drop them off might feel my pain…

They call it the ‘Kiss and Drop’ line.
Tricia re-named it appropriately the ‘Piss and Drop’ line.
It’s a trainwreck driven by retarded mentally slow Moms and Dads.

Note…I break a lot of rules. I do not break rules that inconvenience people though. I don’t think.

There is a 4 way stop sign at an intersection next to the school. I was always under the impression that the first person to reach the intersection was the next to go. However at this intersection you would be mistaken if you had such a thought.
Many times N, the nice cross walk lady is stopping traffic to get Children across the street…and you might be sitting there awhile and some Asshole other person to your left or right in front of you that HASN’T been waiting and has just stopped at said stop sign decides after the little people get across that they are more important than you and oblivious to their surroundings edge forward.

…This happens to me daily.
…Today I yelled at some idiot that it wasn’t their turn. She looked at me like I was the devil...I’m just an Un-Holy Trinity though.


 

So we have two lanes coming from two directions when dropping off our Children. None of this is complicated but you would think that to some it’s like splitting atoms. 

If you come from the north you go into the lane north lane. If you come from the other direction you go into the other lane as to not hold up traffic.
People hold up traffic ALL the time.

Yesterday this event took place… it’s a common occurrence in the morning. I’m not sure if he doesn’t trust our very nice Librarian or Gym teacher to get his Children across the cross walk or not. I would be insulted if I were either Teacher. He’s lucky I didn’t get out of my car and open up a can of whoop ass on him…but I know that I’m not SUPPOSED to get out of my car.

In the afternoon it’s almost worse. I park my car legally on the street and walk up to get my Children. Many Mom’s get out of their cars and visit with their friends mean while the bell has rung and they are nowhere to be found leaving a well laid plan in shambles. 

…with cars and minivans unable to move forward.

This Idiot retard mentally slow person vex’s me daily. I can’t turn down the street sometimes because the bus can’t stop at the stop sign and there is another car parked…legally on the other side of the street. I’ve told her it’s against the law. She just ignores me. I think she’s one of my Haters…

This is Me yesterday. I got pulled over for blocking an intersection. I was VERY embarrassed. The people in front of me though…one particular AssHole put me in a position that I could not remove MySelf from. I did not get a ticket because the nice Police Officer saw what had happened.

I’m sure My Haters were laughing at Me.

I don’t think this is gonna make me any Friends…I don’t think I care anymore.
I do hope however you enjoyed my fancy illustrations.

Does High School Ever End?

I wasn’t the most popular kid in school. I was friends with different people from different groups. The Goth’s, the Jock’s, the Geek’s, the Surfer’s, the Skater’s...
I was a bit of a freestyler, flirting around hoping to make someone’s day better.

Lot’s of people look back at High School and remember drama galore. I think there was drama because it’s a time when young people have hormones rushing through their juvenile bodies and they’re still getting used to it.

I don’t remember to much drama…drama came later in life.

It started when I married my now Ex…a Squadron encompassing a whole bunch of Spouse’s Women some of whom had nothing to do but get in other people’s business.
http://behindthebookscover.blogspot.com/2010/11/im-barbie.html
Things got worse as he moved up the ranks…I was shocked at the amount of talking behind backs…and to faces about shit that was no-bodies business…
…Oh and the rumor mill was a factory headed by Spouse’s Women with a retarded mentally slow point of view.
There were...
Control freaks of Spouse’s Women for no other reason than their Husband Spouse had some fancy decoration on their shoulder. (Just a handful, thank the heavens.)
Then you had other Spouse’s Women who felt snubbed at the most innocent things and started a rampage...
…’So and so is not attending my Pampered Chef party!..what nerve, I’m not going to her social!’
When I was the President of the Officers Wives Club, stop laughing and clean up the mess you just made all over your computer I know you just spit out your Starbucks. My goal then was to entwine the Enlisted Spouses Club with the OWC and get rid of the conventional ideas of what the OWC was and who the members were. We all know I’m a ‘little’ out of the box.
I was hoping I could change people’s perceptions…it’s something I’m still working on.
It was ridiculous.
It was so High School sometimes.

Note…It was also great times filled with amazing friends.

I’m now a Mom and my life is very different than it used to be…
My Children attend school (Elementary my dear Watson) and I have my clique I hang out with as we stand and wait for our Children to be unleashed upon us released when the bell rings.
Yes, I’m in a clique. That’s the only way I can describe it if you are looking from the outside in. The view from the inside though, these Women are my tried and true Friends and we support each other through hard times and laugh till we cry through good ones.
I walk up to the school and smile a genuine smile when I’m able to make eye contact with people I know and those I don’t.

I know there are people that don’t like me. I like to say it’s just because I exist.
I have the Hater Nation, I know it…
...Funny story now about Member #2…
…the other day I had to go to my Children’s school...as I was walking up a car pulls to the curb and the passenger got out. This was at the moment we would cross paths. It was the Dwarf, member #2. I’m right there and what does she do but RUNS into the school…away from me so she doesn’t have to walk with me.
Remember I had apologized to her, a sincere one at that because I’m the 'big’ person (I was even wearing flats) and it seemed I had hurt her feelings by just being me…if I say it I mean it…she refused to accept it then talked shit about me publicly on her FB page.
Whateve…game on right?! Don’t fuck with me.
I get into the office at the school and she’s standing there…
Me…”Hey, D___” with the biggest smile on my face. I’m not gonna ignore someone.
She looked at me like I had murdered her family.

It doesn’t bother me, not one bit. I would rather be nice to someone that doesn’t like me than anything else...

There is another woman at the school whom I have complimented in the past.

Note...I don’t think Women get complimented enough so if I see that someone has put effort into themselves I make it my goal to let them know that someone has noticed…I've stopped strangers in Target for God’s sake.

…Anywho…this woman which I have had interaction with (a few times) ignores me with glee and she looks right at me and then diverts her eyes with such quickness she must get headaches from it.
…and she’s not the only one.
Was it something I said?
Was it something I did?

This is Elementary School not High School!…and I don’t even attend it(?)!

This is something that gives Women a bad name and bothers the shit out of me.
Bitchy Women with nothing better to do than hold a grudge about something they created in their unstable retarded mentally slow minds.
(This is me talking shit…it’s deserved though.)

I’m not the cause of you unhappy marriage.
I’m not the cause of your Child having problems in school.
I’m not the cause of your money problems.
I’m not the cause of your unhappy life.
I’m not the cause of whatever problem you decided you couldn’t take responsibility for so you needed a  scapegoat….bhahahaabahahhaa (my goat sound).

Oh, and if you have started rumors or start rumors about me…I’m totally used it.
If you’re not talkin’ about me you’re not thinkin’ about me.

Occupy Wall-Street Protests

Here are a few things that the ‘Occupy Wall Street’ Protests are about…dumbed down cause that’s the only way I can understand it.

...Wall street runs our country.
...The Politicians are being supported by Wall Street.
...The gap between the richest 1% and the rest of us is getting bigger.
...Jobs are few and far between for some.

We are a Capitalist Society.
We are not Communist or even a Socialist one…
If however we are not careful we could become a Socialist Society.

Is it the job of our Government to parcel out even amounts of money to the masses?
Is it the Job of our Government to get you a job?
That’s a Communist Government, where everyone is SUPPOSED to make the same amount of money no matter what they do, Doctors or House Keepers alike. (This is the actually concept…dumbed down)
It doesn’t work though cause there will always be someone in charge that decides the rules don’t apply to them.

Our Government is a fucking mess, I agree.
Wall Street though and those that run it also should have a say in our Political say…they are people just like you and me.
Corporations also need to have a say…they are run by people just like you and me.

You do realize that the People running these Corporation’s and such did not inherit their positions or money right?
They worked for them.
You can argue that they are giving themselves huge bonuses…Hey, guess what?! I would love a huge bonus!…and I’m such a narcissist I would give myself one!

I’m not saying everything on Wall Street and in Corporations is on the Up and up…

…but…

All those people looking for jobs that are frustrated with Politicians and 'big money’ need to understand that there have to be incentives to create jobs or open a new plant or open a new division…

…and you are after the Politicians to create new jobs…

…this takes money...

Am I the only one that understands this?

They are calling themselves the 99%.
They are actually THE 1%…and are so clueless it bothers the shit out of me. (I’ll get to that at the end.)

The Have's and have Nots... The Not’s want what the Have’s have.

The Hoard…is what I call the 99%.
Hoards historically destroy civilizations. They see a town or a city that has everything they don’t and attack it thinking they can take what they want and have instead of have not. Then they realize after a time that those Peoples made their city or town by hard work…the Hoard was not willing to create only to destroy.

Moveon.org has posted a video that has me a little upset.

http://front.moveon.org/the-most-powerful-occupywallstreet-clip-you-will-see-this-month/#.TpemordgE70.facebook

The video is distorted. It flashes from protests in NY to protest in countries that you are NOT ALLOWED to protest. We do not have tanks barreling into crowds.
When protesters are arrested in these other countries, run by totalitarian regimes, and they go to jail…it’s a different jail than ours.
We have had several unrests at some of these protests but the news often shows just one side…the protesters getting either shot by rubber bullets or sprayed with pepper spray.
They are supposed to be peaceful protests but we do have laws. You are not allowed to assault Police Officers. I think many of these protesters in this Hoard are peaceful…there however are always Bad Apples who will do things to garner attention for their cause to destroy...
…and someone’s always gonna get caught in the middle and that is sad.

Now back to the Hoard that calls themselves the 99%.
NEWSFLASH!!!
They ARE amongst THE RICHEST 1% of the 7 Billion People on this Planet!
They need to get their facts straight.

Now all that being said I think there must be a huge change in the way our Government is run.
Corruption is bountiful everywhere we turn, from corporate greed to crooked politicians.
…but is destroying Capitalism going to get what you want…that which the other guy has?

Member #2, The Hater Nation!

Perfect is boring.
I’m not boring.
I live my life in a way that seems to bother some people.
They actually find personal offense at the way I live and think I do things JUST to bother them.

I don’t.
They are not even on my radar.
Until they put themselves front and center…bad idea!

We ladies have Game night once a monthish. We have been known to not even play a game and have just sat around with our frosty beverages and chatted the evening away.

A while back, it was either the night of the Oscars or the Emmys (ironically), game night was scheduled.
It was at the Dwarfs one of the women that was never one of my F’s house’s.
The F’s and I had decided to have a pre-party at my place and watch the clothes walk down the Red Carpet and drink our beverages as we rated them, before game night started.

Note…The Dwarf This person that is not one of my F’s has actually said to all of us that she is so short she is technically a little person. I’m not making fun of her, I’m stating a fact(ish).
I’m gonna call her D for short…as I laugh…D…for short!!!!!

There we were at my house pre-gaming it…F69 had brought over the homemade vodka that tasted like Tang. We swore it was Tang.
We all get hammered and are our loud obnoxious selves…”cause that’s the way we roll."

F16 is particularly hammered and we love her for it…We are ALL loud though.

I have no idea when we got de-friended by D, well, F1, F2 and I did…I think F2 discovered it, I’m not sure. I never know who de-friends me it happens so often.
Yada, yada, yada…

Note…I had tried in the past to sit and talk to D…I never found a connection. I had always said the things I don’t like about her are the things I don’t like about myself…but hers are accentuated to the point that F1 would turn her back to her just to not get assaulted by her voice and stupid stories that weren’t interesting…AT ALL.
She practically would yell to get heard.
She would interrupt conversations with the dumbest things.
She would use F3 all the time to ‘babysit’ when her useless husband was home.
She is a ‘one uper’…with nothing to one up.

I never hated her. She was just not my friend…and I never pretended to be her friend.
I also never intentionally caused her harm.

The other day, at the hospital where she volunteers, after my surgery…I saw her and called her into my room.
I wanted to apologize for hurting her feelings…not for my behavior…"because that’s the way we roll”
She walked out and I imagine her eyes rolled back as she said to herself…
…”whatever..”

The next day one of my F’s shows me D’s FB post…
I am copying and pasting…

• • D's post - So glad to have a lazy day. The one person I can't stand showed up at the hospital yesterday during my shift. And then tried talking to me. I really can't stand selfish people and she deserves an emmy in that category.
    
    My Reply - I'm pretty sure I know who you are talking about... of all the things you could say about her "selfish" isn't one of them and as far as I know she apologized!?!?!?
    
    Her next Reply - Ok then, self centered. And apologies don't mean anything when they're not sincere.
    
    S's reply - She does deserve an emmy but she would probably want the oscar. Maybe we should hold a meeting to discuss what she desreves.

I am the one person she can’t stand;)
The ‘My Reply’ is F7…
S is Ex F9
http://behindthebookscover.blogspot.com/2011/05/member-1-hater-nation.html

You can judge for yourself if I was a real friend to F9.

…As for D…I find it funny that we were watching the Oscars or the Emmys that night…
…And yes, one day I might win one;).

I am often the center of attention, I won’t deny that. (Often by accident.)
Self-centered and selfish though…that can be disputed.
I never say anything unless I mean it.
I am NOT a fake friend who uses people.


Oh…and I wonder what they think I…
…”deserve.”?…or…”desreves”?

Per the Urban Dictionary…
Hater…

A label applied to people who are more negative than positive when discussing another person. It most commonly refers to individuals whose negativity is so extreme that it is all-consuming. However, there are various levels and forms of being a hater, ranging from completely dismissing any positive traits or actions, to merely painting a less than flattering picture by using words with negative connotations. Hating is often attributed to jealousy, but just as often, it seems to stem from some other source.

Vaccinations Harmful Or Helpful?

I started writing about Peanut allergies and got majorly side tracked as I did my research…

Note…I’m good at researching things and because of it and my experiences on this planet I know a lot of things…some of them useful others not so much.

What has vexed me so is an article by, Lawrence Wilson MD
the title of the article is…
…Vaccination-A Medical Abomination
http://www.drlwilson.com/articles/VACCINES.08.htm


Please read the above article if you desire but then you need to read what I… the Un-Holy Trinity that IS Me, Myself and I, Kristin has to say!

I do not have a MD after my name…but I am in no way less intelligent than someone with one!
I DO believe I have more common sense than this Wilson character has, that is for damn sure…

If you really believe Vaccinations are the cause of all our ills you’ve never been to a third world country and witnessed the pain of parents as they watch their children wither and sometimes die from…
…Typhoid
…SmallPox
…Diphtheria
…Polio
…because their Children were not vaccinated and exposed to others with said diseases.

He, Wilson, has loads and loads of crap layered on to some shit about why you shouldn’t vaccinate yourself or your children.

Note…I know that was a very mature sentence…

I re-read it and re-read it again. The last thing I want to do is look like an asshole not knowing what I am talking about.

Lets say you didn’t vaccinate your children because you are a retard mentally slow. You are going through the airport, lets say Hartsfield International in ATL, with your un-vaccinated children…
…Passerbyers all around you…inhaling, exhaling coughing and hacking…
…Later the next week your un-vaccinated child is at the play ground and sees some cute little baby and plays…
…”coochy, coochy, coo…”
…A week later that poor baby who isn’t old enough to be vaccinated gets SmallPox and dies because you and your asshole self didn’t realize until it was to late that your child had SmallPox.
Should you be responsible for your un-responsible behavior and held accountable for a death that need not have occurred? Just sayin’...

Now I will say I DO know that in SOME instances after someone is vaccinated there are complications and sometimes death occurs.

Guess what?!
We are trying to eradicate diseases and you are not helping…but actually hurting society.

Guess what else?!
It’s quite a bit more dangerous to get in a car with your child than to Vaccinate them…and you do it ALL the time!
I can’t say that loud enough to be honest.

If you read the article…
...I have news for Wilson Md, none of my 3 Children had prenatal care, they have all been Vaccinated AND I don’t force vegetable down their throats…AND I make them drink…get this...TAP WATER!
They don’t have Autism or ADHD either.
They are actually quite bright and healthy.

Seriously I feel like I sound like a raving lunatic again because common sense dictates to me that some of these…new diagnoses have always existed just with no name.

If you don’t agree with common sense that’s OUR problem and you are putting people at risk by potentially spreading diseases that need not occur.

I know people that do not vaccinate their Children and I still like these people.
You can throw articles and studies galore at me about why you should not Vaccinate your Children and there will be articles and studies to throw back…
…But when people get their minds set on something they believe in and become so passionate about it they loose sight of the bigger picture and are pretending to live in a world where they know best.
That is their foolish choice that is harmful to the rest of us.

http://behindthebookscover.blogspot.com/2011/02/autism-and-vaccines.html

I’m actually gonna go on and on about this but not for my blog…for my book.

It Is Not Ok To Call Me A Retard

I saw a commercial the other day that frustrated me.
…
“…It’s not ok to call me a chink”
“…It’s not ok to call me a fag…”
“…It’s not ok to call me a retard…”
“…Don’t even use the word to describe yourself…” Paraphrasing here…thankfully I have only seen it once…I was offended by it.

“Every word has a fragrance: there is harmony and disharmony of fragrances and hence of words.” -Neitzsche

Well I smell something bad.

I’m not saying it’s nice to call someone a retard, you should phrase it this way…
…”You are acting retarded.”
If someone is miffed by this then they are acting retarded.
It’s the same thing as saying…
…”You are acting mentally slow.”

Perhaps you received a drunk text and couldn’t read it because it was an incomprehensible mess…
…”You were acting like a retard mentally slow person.”

Perhaps you just polished your toes and the paint is still tacky and you put closed toe shoes on…
…”I’m so retarded such a mentally slow person.”

Perhaps you are a blogger and are thinking to yourself…’That swimSuit blog has had a lot of hits…I wonder how I can get more pics of me in SwimSuits and blog about it.”…
…”Holy crap I am retarded mentally slow."
Perfectly acceptable don’t you think?

You get the gist.

The word retard means…slow
People really are medically retarded…they are slower than an average person…mentally.

Many words like “niggardly” have been morphed by people acting retarded mentally slow…or they misinterpret words because they are acting retarded mentally slow…
The word niggardly means "not generous or stingy". It has absolutely nothing to do with the word…
...Nigger…which is a another word that was morphed from the French and Spanish words for the colour black.
Niggardly per the Urban Dictionary…"word that will get you fired even though it means nothing offensive."
I’m not Black. I’m an official African American though. Should I find offense when people aren’t from Africa and call themselves African American?

Wow I digress!
My bad…

…The power of the word is mighty and causes hurt and pain but only if you let it.

I’ve been called…
…a whore (I admit…I really do like sex)
...a bitch (just means a female dog)
...a fag (just a British term for a cigarette)
...a retard (a mentally slow person)
...an Ass (I had a pet donkey growing up)
...a cunt (Yes, I do have one…and I’ll C U Next Tuesday!),

Whatever…not a damn one hurt me…

“Sticks and Stones may break my bones but names will NEVER hurt me!"

If you are offend by ANY of this…You are an idiot, acting like a retard mentally slow person…and you are stupid.

One day do you think we will not be allowed to use the word stupid because some stupid person got their panties in a wad?

Note…In a past blog about Autism and Vaccines I covered a little bit about the word “Retard”. I do understand that it offends people…but I worry about societies cock block ever controlling need to restrain peoples use of words...

http://behindthebookscover.blogspot.com/2011/02/autism-and-vaccines.html

Member #1, The Hater Nation!

I am the oxygen that fuels the fire…it’s like I surround the earth and just by existing I piss people off.
The people I piss off K…Oh Hell, her name is Kat...has a name for…The Hater Nation.

This is the ‘story' about one member of The Hater Nation and how in the end it all comes down to ME. Please read all the way to the bottom…and you tell me what I did wrong…other than existing.

I have cut and pasted two unedited threads from FaceBook, names deleted of course. Some of this will be confusing because I want you to read them in real time as I did.

Thread A (and I will mark each one clearly) was generated by F9 and was addressed to F1, F2, F4, F7 and yours truly, the UnHoly Trinity, Me, Myself and I…Kristin.

Thread B was generated by Me and was so F1, F2, F4 and F7 could talk amongst ourselves with concerns to thread A.

I will insert notes to try and keep things clear and share the back story.
Good luck;)

……………………
A 
May 10@ 4:19pm
F9
Have I done something to offend you? I feel like I an getting the cold shoulder from you guys.

Note…She had. She has a tendency to be negative and combative and it has gotten worse this year. She has insulted some of us and doesn’t take responsibility that things are not going well in her life…and sadly I believe it’s her and not those in her life that are the problem. She yells at people almost like it’s required by her religion. We had gotten together a couple weeks ago with thoughts of an intervention but thought it wouldn’t go well.

Note to the note…I am typing this thinking I need to take some responsibility for my lack of ability to attract a man…Oh shit, that’s another blog.

Note…Via text we come to the conclusion that I will be the spokesperson and will write up a response for their approval on thread B.


B
May 10@ 4:55pm
F9,
We got together the other day and had a talk about you. An honest discussion about how unhappy you have been lately. We don’t know how on earth to help you. We came to the conclusion that as combative as you have been lately with concerns to many aspects of your life we should let sleeping dogs lie, so to speak.
Now however if you want help from us we would gladly help you as we are your friends.
Please read this in peace and know we care about you but we all feel like we are treading on thin ice.
Kristin
F7
F1
F2
F4


B
May 10 5:04pm
F7
Very nicely worded. The whole thing is somewhat reminiscent of high school, but hey she did ask. I am ok with putting my name on it.

B
May 10 @5:05pm
F2
I am ok with it.

B
May 10@ 5:10pm
F1
Sounds good. Do we need to let her know that…we have been more distant because of her negativity?

B
May 10@ 5:22pm
F4
I am good with it…..
I agree F7! Totally High School!

B
May 10 @5:26pm
Kristin
F1…I think the whole part of us walkin on thin ice says that…
I’m gonna send this bitch out ladies!

B
May 10@ 5:43pm
F1
Ok…..
Elementary  my dear watson……

Note…We sent our approved response to F9 at May 10 5:28pm

A
May 10 @9:28pm
F9
I can’t respond to this without sounding combative so I won’t bother you guys again. No need to turn your backs on me anymore I can take a hint.

B
May 10@ 9:32pm
SNAP! That did not go very well…

B
May 10@ 9:54pm
Kristin
No it didn’t….seriously just like we fucking expected!
I’m a little pissed she can’t see passed herself and that what we had foreseen.

B
May 11@ 9:01am
F1
Wow, that is very unfortunate. It’s too bad that people have to go through life hating the world and everyone in it….What is more upsetting is that she will blame us and never think she had anything to do with it…or want to change.

B
May 11@ 9:07am
F1
I want to write that 'I’m sorry you feel that way’..…but I’ll hold off for now.

B
May 11 @9:14am
Kristin
how about…
“You are probably right."

B
May 11@ 9:18am
Kristin
Ahhh…fuck it and fuck her.
She’s already de friended all of us I think by now.
She forgot to write me a de friending letter though and that just makes me angrier (joke)…
Oh, wait,  maybe that was her de friending letter.

Note…We had all woken up with one less friend on FaceBook. This is a normal occurrence for me but for my girl friends it is not.

A
May 11@ 10:18am
F7
There is a saying don’t ask a question unless you really want the answer! I speak only for myself (just cause I didn’t ask the others before posting) We have been worried about you and avoiding conversations with you because of the snappishness. I can totally understand if you are having a tough time…You hate the school your kids are in, you’ve started taking classes yourself so have less time for fun stuff, but we didn’t create these issues in your life and when the going gets tough you should lean on your friendsnot push them away. Tell us we’re bitches and we don’t understand or tell us you didn’t mean to be especially grouchy with us…say anything except “I wont bother you anymore” Tha’s just giving up and our friendship is worth fighting for.  No one wants to lose a friend, but we also don’t want to get in arguments over every little issue. Sometimes we have to just agree to disagree and let it go.

B

May 11 @10:22am

F1

F7, I like how you responded!!!!!!!!!!!!

A
May 11 @10:29am
F1
I am truly sorry that you feel this way. without adding more, possible, frustration I agree with F7. We responded to your question to help you.

B
May 11 @10:32am
F1
So I went ahead n sent my response. I hope it sounded ok because I accidentally sent it before I was ready. Opps. I figured I’d just leave it n not make matters worse by rewriting or deleting.

B
May 11@ 10:32am
F7
Yeah, but will she see it, now that I’ve been de friended?!?
Again I have to point out the High schoolishness with the de friending and what not…lol

B
May 11@ 10:33am
I thought it sounded fine.

B
May 11@11:00am
F1
I’m not sure. you can send a message n not b friends w someone so I think it will work.

B
May 11 @11:16am
Kristin
She will see it. if she opens it.
I think ya’ll both did well. I didn’t send what I had to say because i just sounded like a bitch.

B
May 11 @11:25am
F2
I think what F1 and F7 wrote was pretty good. I hope she does read it but I’m thinking she probably won’t.

A
May11@ 4:30pm
F9
F7, F4, F1 and F2, I do think some friendships are worth keeping but I need time alone right now because it has been a very difficult year for …insert name of older son…this yearend I don’t need the added stress about worrying if I am hurt your feelings or not so I’ll stay away until I can be less grouchy. I will probably see you guys at the school but not anywhere else being as our kids aren’t friends with each other. That’s not a dig, it’s great that your kids are friends with each other but…insert both of her childrens names here…have different friends so I will be with them. I know Kristen is not listed in top it is not an oversight I just feel like it will be easier for me not to be included in her life. Take from this what you want but I need to do what’s best for me.

Note…Really?! Just me?!!! Hence she has a membership in the Hater Nation. I wonder if she realized I could SEE said message?

B
May 11@ 4:38pm
Kristin
So…now it’s just ME that is the enemy?!!!
Fuck my life.

B
May 11@ 5:01pm
F4
Well, you are the anti-Christ after all ;)
You know we love you……

There, I made a comment!

Between daughters oath appt, pre-k drop off, taking the cat to the vet and having to clean up cat bodily fluids in multiple places in my vehicle, another issue with ____. I finally have a moment. Oh wait, on our way to Awana Awards.
Moments  over….

B
May 11@5:09
F1
LOL…F4. Sorry your day was so busy….soon summer will be here and hopefully you can relax a little with some ‘therapy pool time’.

B
May11 @5:13
F1
Not sure what to take from F9’s reply. I will let it be and hope she can find happiness somehow.

B
May 11 @5:14pm
F2
Wow F4, that did not sound like a fun day…sorry :(

Kristin, we do love you ;)

B
May 11@ 5:15
F4
Hey no worries….MY glass is half full ;)

Note…Almost everyone of my friends are positive and are ‘half full kind’ people. I love that about them.

B
May11@ 5:19
Kristin
It sounds like a hectic day F4…hope tomorrow is better.

As far as me being the anti-Christ, well…through some eyes I just might be but through other though…;)
I <3 you guys.

B
May 11 @6:42
F7
My thoughts…F4 def needs therapy. If F9 is de friending the anti christ then I’m out too. Kristin didn’t say anything different from the rest of us so to single her out is to find a scapegoat.

Note…for some reason this message from F7 was sent 3 times…

B
May 11@ 7:06
Kristin
Thanks F7, but as the anti christ…I can take it. She NEEDS friends…and if you will be her friends and she doesn’t want me as one…well, that’s ok…I’ve dealt with this kind of thing forever.
Help her…she doesn’t want to hear from me so I will leave her alone…don’t YOU do the same.
Sometimes people need a scapegoat…bhhhahhaaahhhahhhaaa
(that’s my goat sound.)

B
May 11@ 9:15
F7
Why did my msg post so many times weird…lol

B
May 12@ 7:11
Kristin
I thought it was funny F7;)
<3

Censorship?! Vs Editing?!

I had to delete my last blog due to the fact that I was concerned for my safety.

I have had more than several people approach me via private message enraged at what I have said. I usually keep these things to myself though and go on with my silly badself.
I’ve also had people report my blog as offensive, many times.

Note…I find nothing offensive about what I write.

I always win though with a few quick typed words…qwerty style.

I try to keep names out of my blog. My goal is truly not to anger someone. It’s to share the things that happen in my life….and if you just happen to walk into my life…well…
YOU DID IT WITH FREE WILL!!!

…if you are my friend that changed the name from the kiss and drop to piss and drop lane at the school…
…if you are my friend and get all out of sort because I didn’t answer the phone and sent you a text instead (my bad)…
…if you are my friend and stood me up (your bad;)
…if you went on a date or three with me...
…if I don’t know you and you approach me and tell me you’ve been talkin' smack about me…
…if you are someone I know and constantly bitches about everything…
…if you’re my good friends boyfriend and you are a dick…

So I censored myself.
I have said I edit my blog, the good and the bad.
I edit to keep people in my life safe.
Some of my friends are bad ass MoFos who need to be kept safe.

Then I got to thinkin’.

I removed my filter…from my voice and now I am more free than ever...
Is it ok for me to censor my words on my blog?

Well, I all ready DO!……..I just call it editing.

I am in the midst of writing the book of MY life. I will always and forever keep my friends safe though…deep breath people!

…oh wait, what could anyone possibly be worried about?

I ONLY have 12 followers!

If you are not my friend…and have not been nice to me?
I don’t know…?...
I’m not a hateful being but I have been known to be a woman with a wrath that is mightier than that of an average woman.
The power I have behind, in front and around me is exceptional…but I have a hard time with hate…
…Routinely the people that have made me so angry, that impede me and make me livid…
I forget their names.
…like the OWC president at Langley that year…Oh, I couldn’t stand her. She was such a bitch. I can’t even remember that fuckers name!

So I am at this impasse censorship vs editing…Is there a difference?

Right now I think yes.

Censorship is on someone else’s terms.
I grew up in a country where censorship was…..respected...and the places I visited…if you didn’t censor yourself you could land in jail.
I know I would not be comfortable ever going back ever.

Editing though is on my terms.

My book will be edited, not censored.
I will NOT censor myself and you will learn one day all about me.
…I’ll just edit my friends…later perhaps I might write fictional stories about my friends. Holy shit…ahhh the stories…I do love you all!!! and I will never hurt you though.

Freewill Edit vs Someone else’s will Censorship ……………….Has someone won for now?
Or will I forget their name because I find them so forgettable….?

A few years from now?…or maybe one?… maybe 5? maybe never?
…I only have 12 readers… is anyone really following this shit?

Why Are You Such A Bitch?

Seriously…

Why ARE you such a bitch?
Is it your hobby?
Are you one of those people that complain about everything?
Or do you just complain about certain things?

Note…I complain and turn into a raving bitch when ever I drop my Children off at school. The level of stupidity and lack of common sense I see in the ‘Piss and Drop’ line astounds me.

Some people I come across have a vigorous drive to make everyone miserable around them. Nothing is right, good, ok…not even mediocre.

They love to play the blame game. It’s never their fault. They walk around with a permanent scowl on their face. Which does not look pretty on them.

It doesn’t matter what makes them un-happy.
They don’t like their weight.
They never have enough money.
Their Children have disciplinary problems.
Their Spouse is an ass and does nothing to help around the house.
The line in a store is to long.
You can’t find a date.

You are in general un happy about things and circumstances.

You need to change your attitude.
Stop complaining.
Change things that make you un happy.

You might be thinking to yourself now…
…”Where the fuck does she get off?!”
…”She has everything! She’s pretty, skinny and almost always happy.”

Huh Huh…WANNA KNOW WHY I HAVE and WILL EVERYTHING I WANT!?

Because it’s mine to HAVE!

Did you think life was handed to me on a silver platter?
No.
It was a cheap silver coating that starting to flake off as I got older.

God only put’s obstacles in our lives to teach and and show us what we are capable of achieving.

I couldn’t have biological children.
I found out at the young age of 36 I was pre-menapausal.
My marriage was a joke.
I tore my ACL, MCL and Meniscus in the bout of 1 sec.
The Ranch Dorito’s I bought the other day were defective and didn’t have any ‘ranch’ on them.

Hellllooooooo!!!!!

I adopted.
I adapted.
I got divorced.
I had a sense of humor.
I dipped my flavorless Ranch-less Dorito’s in ranch dressing.

It’s not always easy.
My knee aches constantly as I try to get the muscles back in my leg. Working out 2 hours at a time, doing things people with 2 good knees can’t even do.
Before I injured my knee I could stand on a stability ball. The first time I tried I fell off. I didn’t not fall off again. I WILL be able to do it again.

Relationships are complicated as a divorced 39 year old woman with 3 Children.

Every mistake in my life is mine to own. If I don’t like it…I change it.

…and I LAUGH!
…and I say what I want to say when I want to say it! NO FILTER.

When ever I feel like things aren’t fair…I look at others and what they have achieved.

One of my Besties…is 28, a mother of 2 and a Widow.
Talk about an obstacle!
She is one of the baddest bitches I know.
She doesn’t complain.
She lives everyday in a way that most people could only dream of.
She’s also one of THE most generous and loving women I know.

A bad attitude is very ugly.
A great attitude is the most beautiful thing in the world….and can change your life AND the world.

Start off slow if you need to and start smiling at random strangers.

Nobody Likes 'a' Dick.

If you have ever watched daytime dramas you probably thought to yourself…
…’This is ridiculous.'

Well, have I got a story for you.
This is a semi-complicated story, one that is tough to follow but I can’t make this shit up. It’s a REAL life story about people I know.

Names have been changed so I don’t get my ass kicked. (Although if push came to shove I would be the ass kicker.) Although the pictures are of us…I’m a Trouble maker.

It all happened in Colorado though.

Once a upon a time there were two high school sweethearts, Tammy and Owen. Not only were they in love but they were best friends as well.  They got married and had 2 beautiful boys. They were young though and Owen was immature at times and made some mistakes. They decided to separate, not divorce.
Owen wasn’t living here when I met Tammy.
Tammy and I became friends a few years ago when I moved here. Her older son was in my daughters class. We became instant friends.
Tammy was single-ish. She did date as I know Owen did too. Tammy and Owen would talk frequently to each other as they were still best friends. They would even talk about who they were dating…even though they were still married.

Enter stage right, or perhaps I should say ‘wrong in so many ways’…DICK. Dick is divorced with children of his own and Tammy was dating Dick. He treated her very nice at first and then his switch flipped and he became a real asshole.
Tammy decides to break up with Dick.
Tammy finds out she is pregnant by Dick.
Tammy comes to talk to me, scared out of her mind. This man had been physically abusive with her.
I tell Tammy she needs to think carefully and most certainly separate herself from Dick.
Tammy decides to have this baby.

Dick and I have not yet met at this point.

Dick comes to the conclusion that I am a threat to him.

He takes Tammy’s phone and would call me, calling me colourful adjectives.
Then he would delete my number form her phone.
She would re enter it, Dick would CHECK it…then text me lovely things.
Dick also changed her password for her FB account…said adorable things about me…then de-friended me and the rest of all our mutual friends.

Dick doesn’t bother my sensibility.
He’s a classic abuser.
I’m gonna be Tammy’s friend. I tell her like it is.
I take pictures of Tammy and I together whenever the opportunity arises.
It makes Dick mad. I am the thorn in his side that will NOT go away.

I throw a babyshower for Tammy.
At the baby shower Tammy finally explains exactly WHY Dick hates me with gusto.

Dick thinks I’m a lesbian who is out to get his ’girl’. Dick doesn’t like strong women who fight back.

The baby shower was great and Tammy’s Mom and I become friends. Bound together in our scorn for Dick. As is Tammy’s off his rocker brother Steve…we are all now connected.

Enter Owen, stage...crazy ass people really have these things happen to them?

Owen and Tammy are still married…
Owen is dating Rose.

Tammy has her Baby, let’s call her Long Island, for fun.
There is a Birthday party for one of Tammy and Owens sons…I’m invited.
I meet Rose at the party. At this birthday party are my friends, Tammy’s family Owen and Dick. Steve did not attend because Dick was there. This was the first time I had met Dick. Steve hates Dick as much as me.

Rose is young, nice and very pregnant.
It’s NOT Owens baby…..SURPRISE!

Tammy, sadly, is still with Dick.
Owen is still with Rose.

Tammy and Owen are still married.
Tammy and Owen are still best friends.

I love Tammy and Dicks baby, she’s a delight.
I went to Long Island’s first Birthday Party yesterday.
Dick, hilariously was not invited. Steve was there and Dick wouldn’t have made it up the sidewalk without an ass kicking.

Dick hates it when he finds out Tammy and I have been or are going to hang out.

Dick doesn’t like me. I don’t like him.
I will antagonize him as often as possible in my subtle ways.
He’s a Dick.

Who Really Cares?

Last night was Date Night…I was Date-less…long story, yada, yada, yada.

F1, F2 and their spouses picked me up…I thought we were having drinks first…out…turned out we were having drinks at my place.
Surprise!

I’m prepared with tons of alcohol…F1’s spouse does some Tequila shots. We ladies have a vodka cocktail and F2’s spouse is drinken’ nothing’…He’s driven’.

We have our beverages and head downtown to meet our other friends…there are a total of 13 of us…13 is a lucky number…I was glad to help them out;)…and make it a great odd number.

Side note…I was fine hanging out with all my married friends I do it all the time. I did NOT feel like the 13th wheel.

I did not tell my friends that I had a goal…a picture goal…and a Facebook goal.

I wanted to take pictures of myself with my friends doing…really not that outrageous things…but could be construed as such through the eyes of jackasses.
...no drinks in hand.

The reason I wanted to do this was because I had read an article awhile back about a teacher being fired because while she was on vacation (lets see how long I can make this run on sentence go) in Germany or Ireland she had some photos taken and posted them on Facebook…drink in hand, several of them…Ooooooo. Big fucking deal.
The school had a 0 alcohol tolerance. I don’t know why the Superintendent of the school, or who ever fired her thought it was any of their business or how on earth it would effect the school because this teacher had some ‘drinks’…but I guess someone thought it would be detrimental to their school system. Whatever…

If I was a teacher I would drink a lot…
Can I drink more than I already do?

People are getting fired over Tweets, Status Up-dates and such on social networks.
I live my life on-line-ish…
The other day on the Today Show someone said you should never post any picture of yourself with ANY drink in hand.

I don’t have a real job, don’t want one. Well, I do, just not a 9-5 gig.

The pictures I sent via my Spyder (my phone) and posted on FB were SO not that innocent but I did not have ONE drink in my hand.
I have over 500 pictures of myself on FB…many of them…drink in hand.

Drink shmink…

I was wasted! So were many of my freinds … and it was obvious!
Some of my friends were completely sober…they look drunk though.

(I’m waiting for permission from my friends to use their likeness aka photos on here…They have real jobs and might work for Jackasses…)

Perspective….

Who really fucking cares?
Get your panties out of a wad!

Google IT! and get your panties out of a WAD!

I’m not your traditional Mother of 3. I’m not that grounded, I swear like a sailor, although I try not around my children. I’m on my computer a lot and I HATE crafting with them.

I am admittedly NOT the greatest Mother in the world…and I am only a part-time Mom. (‘Cause my Ex and I share 50/50 custody.)

I have a story of an event that took place yesterday…that kinda pissed me off.

My neighbor and very good friend, K (I have blogged about her before, a widowed Mother of 2 and is now 28), comes over yesterday morning. She had a question about her outfit and how to fold her jeans up….I show her how, we chat a minute and K heads out…There is a reason for this random bit of what seems like trivial mindless space taking words, and it has a great deal to do with several events...

K and I have an agreement. She can be at my house and our children can be alone in her house, for a limited amount of time. We have responsible children and my daughter is probably one of THE most responsible 9 year old girls you could meet. She is in charge. We Mom’s are right next door.

Last night my children were over at K’s house playing. It was around 5:30pm. At around 5:50 K comes over to use my printer and share something with me…something VERY funny!
She says…
…”I know what I forgot to tell you this morning! Before I came over about my outfit I ‘googled “FOLDED JEANS".  Google it, go to IMAGES and scroll down, you are gonna die.”
I google it, click on images and scroll down.

Side note…Click on a new window and please do it so you will understand the randomness and hilarity that my life and hers contains.

We are busy laughing our asses off at what we had just seen and the door bell rings. It’s the Mother of the girl that lives up the street. I answer the door still laughing.
Her…”Is ___ here?”
Me…”No, she could be next door though.”

She turns and walks away, looking a little put out. I’m still finding our viewing funny  and as I laugh like an idiot I tell K…
…”You might want to get home now.”

She heads back….

This morning K comes over after the children have gone to school.

K…”She was pissed!”
Me…”So, fuck her. She didn’t even know where her daughter was!”
We KNEW where our children were...this time;) (I’m not perfect, I’m not gonna throw stones at her glass house.)

K tells me that as the Mom was leaving K’s house she asks her what we thought was so funny. (You DID google it right?)
K tells her that we had seen something really funny and couldn’t stop laughing about it.
I think she was shocked that it had NOTHING to do with her.
As the Mom is walking away she tells her daughter…
…”I’m not mad at you. It’s the parents involved…..”…as she walks up the street.

We are not traditional Moms. This Mom that lives up the hill is married to a Doctor, he’s a resident right now. They have 3 children. They are Mormons (which might be relevant, might not). She crafts with her children.
Her middle child I can’t leave alone in a room in my house. He get’s into everything, opens cupboards and takes all the shit out. He bugs the shit out of me.
Her older daughter is fine, I actually really like her and she is welcome in my home.
The other is maybe one and half little girl.
She could be classified as traditional Mom, plain, doesn’t dress well and WON’T hang out with us.

I’m also sure she crafts with her children…which I find kinda cool cause that means she has patients that I lack…
I’m always in awe of cookie bakin’ craftin' Moms.

She also has no real hobbies, your children are not a hobby…I have more hobbies than Ben Hur won Oscars!

K and I have figured we won’t be seeing her Children around till summer now.

Now let me put on some panties so I can get them in a wad.

On days when the temperature is below freezing her children have shown up at my place with no shoes on. She didn’t know where her daughter was. Her son is a pain in my ass.

K and I do our best to get by with everyday obstacles. We can jump cars and change tires. We know how to do almost anything together…don’t fuck with us.
Our neighbor who decided we were sketchy…has a husband and family around to help her out…

So note to anyone who wants to judge my bad parenting…as to any other portion of my life…

I’m divorced. I have three Children that have NO issues, have parents that get along and can have a beer together. We don’t fight…we ARE “Team Mom and Dad”.

My children are happy, have their shit together and they are healthy. They are clothed-ish properly on most days although when they pick their own outfits they look like ragamuffins.

The Mom up the street should have gone home…taken her pants off…and removed her waded up panties. She probably would have felt better…

In the mean time I’m gonna go panty-less and say “Fuck it!”.

Oh…don’t let your Children Google shit…Holy crap how casually ludicrous was that!
Did YOU Google it yet?
I’m a perv…and I THINK it’s funny!

Autism and Vaccines

This is a blog I’ve wanted to write for a long, long while.

I came home from my Doctors visit and re-hab the other day. I popped a pill, being in a 'little' pain and turned on the TV. On the TV there was Dr. Oz. I never watch this or any other day time talk show…but tune in this time I did as a sign from the God’s that this is what I was supposed to blog about.

Dr. Oz called it a national crisis...

I don’t have children with Autism, or any other issue for that matter other than ‘smart mouth syndrome’.
My children were all adopted, see 'Adoption, Yes, I have a serious side’, blog if you want to know their and my story of how we became a family.
My children never had prenatal care, were not breast fed and all had their vaccines on time.
I can count the ear infections they ALL had on one hand. Illness is not rampant in my home. I don’t have hand sanitizer all over the place (all though my Ex does). They play outside and get dirty.

I do however have many friends with children that have Autism.
There are several varying degrees of Autism. I’m not going to get into the details because the degrees are SO VAST! One type and probably the most common kind is Aspergers.

In 1943 psychiatrist Lea Kanner, ‘discovered’ Autism. At about the same time Hans Asperger described a comparable syndrome.  I only put it in quotes because it was always there, they just put a name to something. It did not become a widely used as a diagnosis until the 1990’s as doctors became more aware and educated.

I like to describe Aspergers as a mild form of Autism where the children have a difficult time communicating, making eye contact and feeling empathy for others and also usually but not always have an odd fascination and knowledge about one subject. Think ‘Rain Man’, yet less pronounced.

What causes Autism and how can we stop it from happening?
Those are two of the biggest questions people have….and if your chid is diagnosed with Autism, “How can I stop this, make them better, improve their life standard?”
I do not pretend to comprehend what they deal with on a daily basis.

There are three major schools of thought as to what does cause autism…

Vaccines
Environment
...and conceiving a child after the age of 35 women.
If you are over the age of 35 should you have a child? The risks are there, this is a fact. You increase the risks of having a child with Autism by 30%.

Our society has a perpetual belief that everything can be blamed or explained.

I’m only going to focus on vaccines as our environment is fucked up but the passion with concerns to vaccines is prevalent and indisputably dangerous.

Vaccinations…

There are some people out there that refuse to get their children vaccinated for reasons of fright (not right). They are afraid their child will be the one out of however many that will have the side effects of vaccinations and something dreadful will happen.
Yes, this may happen but the chances are miniscule. So I say bullshit, you are putting others at risk. To rid disease we must eradicate it. To eradicate it you must have 95 out of 100 people vaccinated or this will not work.
You can find any conclusion you WANT if you dedicate a little time on the internet. (As I just have.) Pharmaceutical companies do study vaccines as do Doctors and Scientists. Yes, Pharmaceutical companies want to make money…this is not about that...

The main reason parents don’t vaccinate their children with the MMR (Measles, Mumps and Rubella)…is because a few Doctors/Scientists have done studies that suggest it is linked to cause Autism. One very publicized study was done by Andrew Wakefield in 1997. It’s 2011 now, that was 14 years ago. Parent’s started running scared…
…In the Netherlands on June 21, 1999 there was a Measles outbreak at an Orthodox Reformed Elementary School. 5 cases were diagnosed by a General Practitioner. 2 days later the Head Master of the school informed the Public Health Service that 80 of the 412 students were home sick. They found that only 7% of the children had been vaccinated.

Andrew Wakefield had to retract and admit his is study was falsified. Completely and utterly it was FALSE!

There have been over 1500 papers and studies written stating that Thimerosal is toxic and we have been putting it in our bodies for decades. They also link it to the rise in Autism.

Thimerosal is a Mercury based preservative found in some vaccines. Mercury is poison. In 1999, as a precautionary measure the Public Health Service agencies, the American Academy of Pediatrics and vaccine manufacturers agreed that thimerosal should be reduced or eliminated from vaccines.

I think this is a great idea.

The University of Calgary states that the "United States is in the midst of a tragic epidemic". The study goes on to say that it is NOT due to changes in diagnosis, population changes or environment. Bullshit yet again.

A Doctor on Dr. Oz, a female, said something very smart…

...”Not getting your children vaccinated is the same as driving with them in your car hoping you don’t get in a car accident.”

5200 cases in 1991 rose to 19,200 in 1995. Before the ’90’s autism was not widely diagnosed. Changes in the definition of Autism have led to more children becoming diagnosed within a greater range.

The MMR, containing thimerosal had been given to children in the US from 1971 till 1990’s.  During the time the MMR vaccine that contained thimersoal was given there were less cases of Autism diagnosed…AFTER it was taken out, all the sudden was an ‘epidemic’…

What if you thought of Autism from a different point of view…the one they DIDN’T discuss on Dr. Oz?

Children become aware of themselves and make dramatic changes in social and speech behavior around the age of 12 months…around the same time the MMR vaccine is given.

I have the answer.
It’s a simple one, yet sad.

Children used to be just called, ‘retarded’ or ’slow'…LONG BEFORE vaccines and the environment changed. Some people think of the word retarded as hateful. I don’t think they meant it to be poisonous. It was just a different time.
The word retard just means…slow. It’s not demeaning, but it did turn into a hurtful word out of the mouths of unsympathetic beings.

Why do people say there is an epidemic of Autism?
Autism is not an epidemic.
Something finally has a name and the only epidemic is that of education.
Education is a GOOD thing.

Children with Autism ARE different. They learn differently than their Peers. Understanding that they learn differently can improve their chances in society. They just need a chance.

If you are a parent with an Autistic child I want you to know I support you.
I’m sorry if you want an answer. Sometimes there isn’t a reason or something/someone to blame. We are just born the way we are born.

If I am ever found to be wrong in my opinion and there is real definitive proof (not internet crap) as to why so many children have Autism now, I will be the first to raise my hand and say I am wrong.